20 Things You Should Never Say To Someone Struggling With Infertility!

We are lucky to support and treat women struggling with infertility every day. They often confide in us about having to navigate the the well meaning but insensitive comments and advice that other people have to offer. Unless you have walked in their shoes, there is no way to truly understand what a person struggling with infertility is feeling. Sometimes saying nothing at all is better then soliciting advice. A simple “I am here for you if you need a friend to listen” is more valuable than you know.

In a recent article, fertility coach Pradeepa Narayanaswamy compiled a list of 20 things you should never say to someone struggling with infertility.

“I always avoid telling others about my infertility journey to avoid the comments that can really sting, let my blood pressure rise and bite my tongue, to put it mildly. There are sometimes where I wanted to react in a more animated fashion to those somewhat insensitive and ignorant comments.

This doesn’t just happen to me. It happens to many of us who are struggling with pregnancy loss, primary or secondary infertility. I recently put a question (What is that one thing that people say annoys you most about infertility?) to an online FB support group and its members had overwhelming response talking about their personal experience with these insensitive comments.

This list is based on my personal experiences and the collective experiences from many amazing souls going through fertility challenges including my wonderful fertility clients.

I am writing this to create awareness to those people who haven’t experienced infertility, who typically say things like this (many times with good intentions) to others going through infertility.”

Read more of her article at Fertility Road.

Michael Hickey